Even though I’m taking the morning off work to go to a funeral, I still got myself up at 5:30 and headed out for Man2Man, instead of sleeping in like I easily could have. This morning the “theme” was along the idea of being a part of a small band of brothers in order to ultimately help each one of us be the men God has in mind for us to be. This was also because in a few weeks Man2Man will be taking a break for the summer. So, even though I didn’t really say anything at our table, I sat there thinking. I was wondering what I could do to become part of a small group of men that would be there for each other. My first thought was “I can just start a group at my place!” Then I was thinking would anyone come, or would anyone even want to come. Most guys probably already have a few close friends they meet with, or they have a group of guys they already plan to join. Don’t get me wrong, I do have friends, and at least one of them is a really good friend, and I also have my wonderful Fiancee, but when it come to having that group of guys, and that accountability, I have zero. I walked out of there this morning thinking that I need help, but right after that came the thought “I’m not going to go beg someone for help.” Such a manly thing to say, and just after I had listened to the guys at our table talk about how we fall into that “I’m a man, I can handle it” trap too often. I thought that maybe I really do need to go beg for help. But who would I go to?
Something Rusty said during our closing prayer really stuck with me though. He was paraphrasing a verse in Ecclesiastes, when he said “two are good, but a cord of 3 strands is not easily broken.” What the entire verse says is this:
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
One man by himself is easily over powered. That tells me we can’t do it alone. Two men can defend themselves, but it’s still going to be tough. That’s why he takes it to three. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Three men together can do more than just fight off the attack. They can stand firm. Together. That’s the 3/1 plan. 3 men = 1 cord. Instead of referring to it as a band of brothers, which isn’t bad saying to use, I think I want to see cords. Groups of 3 men, that bond with each other, and come together that form cords, which then come together to form the rope that is used to hold the church together. Now am I trying to say it would be wrong to form a small group of 4 men, or maybe 5? No, not wrong, but would that be the best situation? I think there’s a reason the writer of Ecclesiastes doesn’t go on to say “Oh yea, and a bundle of 4 is absolutely unbreakable.” Not only is 3 a holy number (Father, Son & Spirit), but when 3 men are together, you either have to leave one out, or everyone has to participate. There is no 2 vs 2 that could happen with 4, and there’s more strength than just 2 (as the verse says). Does it make sense?
So where does that leave you? Are you just one man getting overpowered, 2 men just defending yourselves, or are you already in a cord? I’m know I’m still just one man, but I also know I need those two other guys, and I’m going to start looking for them. Maybe they’re guys I already know, that I’m already friends with… or maybe God has two other guys in mind for me, I don’t know. I do know however that I can’t sit back and do it on my own anymore. I must be part of a cord.